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ONCE upon a time a Wolf was lapping at a spring on a hillside when, looking up, what should he see but a Lamb just beginning to drink a little lower down. “There’s my supper,” thought he, “if only I can find some excuse to seize it.” Then he called out to the Lamb, “How dare you muddle the water from which I am drinking?” and so the famous fable goes. The lamb is doomed because the wolf will find any excuse to blame him and justify his killing. Poor lamb or justified wolf? The poor little white fluff ball is destined for the dinner plate but if the wolf doesn’t eat he’ll starve. Just watch anything David Attenborough films and you’ll understand the wolf must eat!! But the poor lamb did not muddy up the water because he was downstream from where the wolf was so why is the wolf making up excuses? Does he feel guilty? ‘No you humanitarian weakling’, the wolf snarls. ‘This is how I survive and I will do whatever it takes to get my meal.’ Often I quietly wonder if I am wrong to t...

It's all the rage at the moment with the US Presidential election fast approaching; Clinton or Trump on the minds of most Americans. On my mind is how the hell did he get there in the first place?? The mind boggles as I consider some of the vile that has spewed from his mouth in the past year. Trump on Mexicans 'They're bringing drugs. They're bringing crime. They're rapist'. His disdain for African Americans 'laziness is a trait in Blacks'. His misogyny rife as he blabs “My favorite part [of 'Pulp Fiction'] is when Sam has his gun out in the diner and he tells the guy to tell his girlfriend to shut up. Tell that bitch to be cool. Say: 'Bitch be cool.' I love those lines.” and I don't have the stomach to quote from his recently leaked audio from 2005 where he brags that he can sexually assault women. He hates Muslims to boot. I understand prejudice people will happily elect a prejudice president but a candidate with no experienc...

It used to be that if you did well in school more than likely you'd get a good job, have a successful career and make lots of money. You can have a double degree these days and get stuck stocking shelves at Woolworth's and did you know law degrees are now pretty much a dime a dozen out there. So it would seem a degree is not always enough anymore. I hear you ask what's the point of going to uni then? Why build a HECS debt for nothing? Well, I'm not saying those things are a waste of time, but you need something else. You need to be a driving force that's going to stand out in the crowd and that's where the mental strength comes into play. I read a great article in the Sydney Morning Herald yesterday that identified 21 signs of mental strength articulated by psychotherapist Amy Morin. I want to highlight the ones I think may help you not just in your career but also in everyday life. You Balance Emotions With Logic If somebody pisses you off for wha...

After more than two decades of working in Human Resources I feel like I've seen it all. It's just my opinion when I say the modern day workplace may not be the nicest place to spend a large chunk of your life. My observations of the modern day workplace are these. Fit The Mould Or Else You Are A Bad Employee I was blown away the other week as I watched Anh Do interview Dr Charlie Teo on 'Anh's Brush With Fame'. Dr Teo, a high-profile Australian neurosurgeon clearly does not fit the mould when it comes to the modern day workplace. He lives by the principle that 'a doctor should always treat his patients as he would a member of his own family'. On the show Dr Teo makes no bones about the fact that many neurosurgeons won't operate on patients where there is a risk and they hide behind the excuse that their patients tumour is inoperable. Bottom dollar is these surgeons don't want to risk getting sued if something goes wrong and the hospitals h...

I'm sure you've heard a horror story or two about how families change when it comes to inheritance. Many times close knit families become the biggest casualties. Those decades of family gatherings suddenly end never to happen again. And then come the lawyers, smelling money like a pack of wolves closing in on their weak prey. The lawyers will tell you to fight for what's rightfully yours never disclosing they stand to gain the most. So what drives families to fight over their loved ones final wishes? Greed? Sense of entitlement? Spouses sticking their noses in where it clearly does not belong?  Perhaps all of these things? I think it's more than that. I'd add emotion is the biggest driver of destruction. Emotions like anger and vengeance come into play. Add to that jealousy, bitterness, and a need to reclaim a sense of  importance, love, and self-esteem. You wonder how this has anything to do with money? How could it? But it does. If a kid feels unloved g...

Some people are lucky and they love their jobs. They love going to work and can't believe they get paid to do it. It leaves you wondering 'why them and not me'? But there is a choice in all of this. You can just leave the dreaming for others and choose to face the daily grind or you can be a dreamer and chase your passion. Both choices have good points and bad, here's what I think. Suck it Up and keep Your Day Job Because somebody needs to pay for electricity, gas, food etc. A struggling Actor won't pay the bills. In the words of Obama 'A Great Education Helps to Create Ladders of Opportunity - a good education for your kids costs money. You'll have a better chance at paying off the mortgage - if you live in Sydney selling your house when you retire leaves a far bigger nest egg than Super (retirement fund). And if you have a big enough nest egg then you can finally chase your dreams. It builds resilience to help battle adversities that may cros...

I'm turning 50 this December and the thing that worries me most is I have no idea how to celebrate it. I'm the unassuming type, don't like to be the centre of attention BUT I have always celebrated my milestones. When I was 16 and 18 I had a big party at home with family and many dear friends in attendance. For my 21st I struggled a little but in the end I celebrated my 21st by having a BBQ in the park with family and friends. I had to do something different though, so I stayed sober that entire day and night!! Simply Un-Australian. For my 30th I had a big dinner with family and friends and for my 40th a friend and I celebrated jointly at the Casino. Now I know about the wonderfully exciting list of things you can do for your 50th but none of that grabs me. Yes I know I can visit the Big Apple or go to some other exciting far away land OR pick 50 exciting things to do the year I turn 50 OR have a big party where I can pretend it's the 80's all over again BUT I ...